Pipping and Cootie Shots: Inoculating Against Negativity
September 7, 2012 § Leave a comment
Negativity is a destructive force. And it is contagious. When you don’t actively push back it begins to permeate everything. You begin seeing everything through this dark prism and everything is unsatisfactory. Your language and your body reflect it. Everyone else can feel it and may begin avoiding you thus feeding the negativity and reinforcing it. It erodes your power and control over your own destiny and eventually you believe you can do nothing to make it better.
Is there a cootie shot to inoculate myself against negativity when I know I am going into a situation that is going to trigger these feelings and thus prevent it from starting? I conducted a completely informal email poll with the lovely ladies of Pinnacle for their suggestions!
Know before you go. Some places you already know are going to be triggers. If you know that spending all day with your extended family drives you a little crazy, plan for a break to regroup. Take a magazine to read or plan to take a long walk after lunch. Try not to schedule back to back meetings or too many professional events at one time. Make sure you’re in tip top shape before the event – get a good night’s sleep & eat a good breakfast before heading into a stressful situation.
Adjust your Attitude (and expectations). I forget this one, but it is keenly important before going into a situation that will be stressful to ensure your attitude and expectations are in line with the situation. Lisa and Cindy both suggest taking a few minutes before going in, to take a few deep breaths to calm and center yourself. Cindy recommends counting to 10 before responding to anything.
Be prepared. Cindy noted that the unexpected can take mildly inconvenient events and blow them into major stressful events. Ever had an important meeting scheduled and had one of your kids wake up sick? If you have backups in place, it’s easier to stay on track and not become overwhelmed and by extension harried and stressed.
Stay Focused on Your Goal. Cindy suggested writing down your goal for the meeting or the event. She said having that written reminder in front of you can help you keep things on track. This advice holds true for both professional and personal situations!
Think of the children (or your pets). They are a great excuse to get away from a negative situation! Take them for a walk or to the playground for a break as a reason to cut negative conversations short during family events. Excuse yourself from difficult conversations with a co-worker telling them that you have tasks to complete because you have to leave to and let your dog out!
Get (or be) a pip. Never underestimate the power of someone close to you reminding you of what they like and admire about you and vice versa. That can snap a negative spiral dead in its tracks. Pip somebody you love (or a complete stranger) today and you just might be stopping a negative streak cold.
Embrace the Power of Music. When I feel myself getting into a funk, I apply liberal amounts of goofy music. They need to be peppy, ridiculous, & fun! You can use these as a preventative measure as well. Play some upbeat songs on the way to your next job interview and you’ll walk in with a smile on your face and a little bounce in your step.
Here’s a sampling of our Negativity Buster Playlist:
- The Commodore’s Brick House
- Lipps, Inc. Funky Town
- Toby Keith’s Red Solo Cup
- Carly Rae Jepsen’s Call Me Maybe
- LMFAO’s I’m Sexy & I Know It
- Duran Duran’s Rio
- Queen’s Bohemian Rhapsody (I always picture Wayne’s World when I hear it)
- Weird Al’s Eat It
What else can be an inoculation against negativity? What would you put on your Negativity Buster Playlist?
Posted by: Heather